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Girl Talk 2

How to Jump-Start Your Single Life

By Christine Hart · On October 10, 2012
So you’ve made the decision, you’re a good person, you have goals and direction, you have a loving heart and you want to share your life with someone else. There are so many theories out there that say love comes when you least expect it. This can be true to a certain point but I guarantee if you spend every night on the couch with the remote, love won’t find you. So let’s talk about getting proactive about your love-life or as I like to say “give fate a little nudge”.

First you need to clean house. By this I mean put pictures of exes, CD’s made by exes, clothes worn by exes and file them under g for garbage or put them in a box in the back of your storage, sealed with a nice piece of duct tape. New energy is going to have a tough time coming into your life if you listen to his mix CD everyday on the way to work, keep his toothbrush in your cabinet or keep his old t-shirt in your drawer. Purge it all! A lot of times, people don’t realize their ex’s energies are still around even if it’s been months or years since they broke up.

Okay, so now that things are cleared out, get a pen and paper and take some time to spell out your romantic vision. I know it may sound cheesy but until you write it down on paper, people are often not very clear on what they are looking for. Write down your ideal life you have with your partner 5 years from now. What are you doing? How are you feeling? What are his strengths? What are his weaknesses? Keep writing and re-writing until you can read it from beginning to end with butterflies in your belly.

Next is you want to tune into things in your life that maybe you’ve been doing alone. Have you been spending more time with the home-exercise DVD than at the gym on the treadmill? When’s the last time you took your favorite book to the coffee shop instead of your bed? Start by taking some of your private activities and making them public. This is a good warm-up in getting yourself out there in an indirect way while still doing the things you love.

Next, make a goal to do at least one thing a week to improve your love life. These may include signing up for a speed-dating event, creating an online profile, accepting an invitation to play on a co-ed sports team, or improving on your appearance and confidence in some way – maybe that simply means switching conditioners.

Finally, accept all invitations. Yes that means all of them. If friends or co-workers ask you out, go. People say to me, “oh but I know everyone there” or “my friends don’t have any hot single friends”. I say, look beyond that! What about when you stop in to get gas on your way to the pub? Or you stop in to get flowers for a friend’s housewarming? Who is that cutie in aisle 4? What if your friend’s cousin just got off the phone with her single friend who is moving to town next week? When you are on the proactive and open path – situations arise – you just never know how, so try not to block them out.

And above all, resolve to look at the world as though there are an abundance of great guys out there rather than assuming it’s slim-pickings. Switch it on and get out there!

Live Love,


Christine

 

Contact me today for your free 20 minute date-coaching session! [email protected]

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As a Gender Communication Specialist & Relationship Coach for almost a decade, Christine is the founder of Your Date Coach Inc. She is an industry leader in navigating the world of effective male/female communication. Her guidance and techniques have led to more than 65 lasting marriages. She is the author of 'The Art of Living a Flirtatious Life', - a book dedicated to helping women connect with the power of their femininity. Christine holds a BA in Communication Studies and is a graduate of the PAX Mastery Program in California. PAX is dedicated to transforming the way men and women relate to each other. yourdatecoach.com

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  • Carmelia Ray says: October 17, 2012 at 3:27 am

    I LOVE the “clean house” tip. At first I took is as a literal example. But with all these great tips, one BETTER clean house, because they may just end up taking someone home for a nightcap šŸ˜€

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  • Vanessatan says: February 29, 2016 at 4:02 am

    My life changed after reading your post. What your tips helped me in jumping start my single life is that they encourages me to change my mind about dating and relationships. In the past, I used to be afraid of being with someone for a long time, being exposed myself, and more, but after reading your post, I think in a more simple way. Thank you!

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