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Emotionally Bankrupt
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Are You Emotionally Bankrupt?

By Nicole McCance @nicole_mccance · On April 13, 2015

Feeling emotionally bankrupt usually happens when you are busy taking care of everyone else and constantly neglecting your needs.  You can become an angry giver, still giving but resentful and agitated all the time.

So many of my clients deprive themselves of self-care, rest, and even taking vacation days. We often forget to have self-compassion when we’re so busy pushing and driving ourselves to produce at work, save money, take care of others, etc. If you’re forcing yourself to grin and bear it rather than doing things that are self-nurturing, you’re likely feeling emotionally bankrupt.

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Balance is this thing we hear a lot of, and we all want some of it. But balance doesn’t mean the same thing for everyone. To nurture yourself and fill yourself up, you need to ask yourself what balance is for you. When you know what balance is you need ask yourself why you don’t give yourself that gift.

Start by giving yourself permission to treat yourself well and with respect. What is the one thing you can do this week that will help you rest, restore, and find balance?

zTtNmMaybe you go on that vacation down south you’ve been dreaming of… or treat yourself to a delicious meal. Start small. This way guilt won’t creep in, telling you all the other things you should be doing.

When you give yourself what you need, you’ll likely notice your mood begins to shift. You will feel brighter and more fulfilled. You will learn that your ability to give and produce is fed by how well you take care of yourself and fulfill your needs first.

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Nicole McCance

Nominated, RBC Women Entrepreneur of the Year, Nicole McCance M.A. is a fully licensed Psychological Associate. Her services are covered under extended health care and she is licensed to diagnose mental disorders. Nicole is also an author of the best-selling book 52 Ways to Beat Depression Naturally. She has over 9 years of formal university education and has completed a certificate program in trauma and recovery from Harvard Medical School. She has a M.A in Counselling Psychology from the University of Toronto, a B.A. in Criminology and a B.A with Honours in Psychology from Carleton University. Nicole owns Nicole McCance Psychology, which has over 10 counselling locations providing both individual and couples counselling across the GTA. Over 120 individuals and couples receive counselling every month through Nicole McCance Psychology. She has been providing counselling and assessment services for the past 10 years across North America and in Russia. She has been a frequent contributor to media outlets such as CP24, CTV News, CTV National, Global TV,City TV, CBC News, Rogers, CBC Radio, ABC Spark, E!, the Toronto Star and Canadian Living. You can visit her website at nicolemccance.com.

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