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Wonder What Your Man Wants? Try Asking.

By Rebecca Cooper Traynor @matchmecanada · On April 27, 2015

I was on my way back from an event in Ottawa, and a client of mine called my cell phone wanting some advice on her current dating situation. I was in the passenger seat, so I was able to give her my undivided attention. She revealed that she was having a challenging time being herself with the new man in her life. She questioned whether he understood her sense of humor and whether she was giving him the mental stimulation she thought he needed. He spoke a lot about work and his life commitments, leaving my client wondering if there was any room for her in his life. No matter what the topic, she was second guessing her answers to his questions and seemed almost concerned about what his impression was of her.Our conversation consisted of a lot of uncertainty and that she wasn’t sure how to approach the next interaction with him.

What Your Man WantsThen there was a moment, she revealed that she wasn’t sure if he needed the same type of security that she was longing to receive from him. She indicated that knowing his interest in her would help her feel more at ease about the situation. She didn’t think that men needed that type of security from their partner. I was quick to point out that men have insecurities, also.

Men too, need to know that they are thought of and cared for. Even the manliest macho guy is concerned about having his ego bruised. He too can be sensitive and may have some confidence issues. The truth is that men can be fragile with body issues, hair loss, fashion style, finances and professional success. Not to
mention sexual competency and penis size!

But how would you know any of this if you never chose to ask?

He wants to put his best foot forward and meet a beautiful and intelligent woman. Someone who can be his rock, and show him support every day. Someone who asks questions and truly listens. Most men are looking for a partner who has a positive attitude towards life. Someone who he can be in a room with, enjoying the silence together and knowing she cares.

The call I shared with my client allowed me to realise that we all need to work a little harder at communicating with the people in our lives. Thoughts are only ideas that you are thinking about, and often people get lost in their own assumptions. Communication is so important in your relationship. Which means having the ability to speak about your thoughts and feelings, and also listen to your partners. There is no sense in running a scenario in your head over and over again, wondering what the meaning was of someone’s action, or lack thereof. Being able to communicate your needs to someone is what will help you create and maintain a healthy relationship. You will allow someone to understand you, and you will allow yourself to understand yourself better. Make sure you are living consciously and working hard at expressing your feelings and thoughts to your partner.

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Rebecca Cooper Traynor

Rebecca has fallen in love with helping people find happiness. Not only is she one of Toronto’s top matchmakers, she is truly passionate about what she does, and has successfully supported many singles through the process of finding their perfect mate. Her company, Match Me Canada, offers personalized matchmaking services, augmented by professional life coaching, image consultation and date mentoring to support her clients on their quest. She is endorsed by and affiliated with several of her top competitors in order to ensure her clients are connecting with singles of the highest caliber. Rebecca has hosted her own television segment called Spread The Love, and has been interviewed by CTV, Global News, CHEX TV, Canadian Living Magazine, and many other radio shows and news publications. She is currently living her own ideal, happily married to the love of her life, winemaker Mike Traynor, and raising their daughter Audrey. Together, they own and operate Traynor Family Vineyards in Prince Edward County, which is where you will find her when she isn’t busy making love happen for the rest of the world.www.matchmecanada.ca

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